Helllllllp. I’ve been dating this guy like a month and he wants to spend every kid-free night together.
I don’t 😩 I want my time still. He asked if I wanted to go out tomorrow night and I said I’d much prefer to go out Saturday night. Now he’s asking if I want to just hang out Tomorrow night. I do, alone, on my couch with a glass of wine and my cats after my kids go to their dad’s, I clean my house and spend time with my horses.
Anytime I have two kid free nights he tries to make plans both nights and I only want to do one. It’s new and I’m trying to go slow. He also has kids and has the same schedule I do.
Context: he is coming on strong. He cleared out a dresser drawer for me and filled it with sweats. Which kinda pressures me to stay over even if I don’t want. He has already said I love you. I’ve gotten way too attached way too soon in previous relationships and I’m in a different headspace now.
Howwwwww do I explain I don’t want to give up all my kid free time yet without hurting his feelings?! I feel like I’m still getting to know him, I’m just not in the hot and heavy phase.
I think you might be looking for space-intense or space-intensive depending on how you are using it.
E.G.: Space-intensive applications require a significant amount of storage space to run properly.
Similar adjectives could be memory-intensive if the application requires significant amounts of RAM/memory; processor-intensive if it places high demands on the CPU/GPU; or resource-intensive for something that uses something more vague or a combination of several things.
It feels like you're after resource-intensive, which applies to storage as well as memory and processor utilization.