People often talk about Western guys in Thailand as if it is always transactional. I hear stories about paying bar girls, covering every date, or throwing money around just to have female company.

But my own experience could not have been more different. After spending several months there over multiple trips, I met dozens of women, more than fifty in total, and that variety gave me a very different perspective.

Many of the women I met had a car, often a really nice and beautiful one, and they would gladly drive me around. They often insisted on paying for meals or at least splitting the cost. Some traveled long distances just to see me, sometimes lending me their bike, and they were the ones paying for the gas as we explored together.

Because of that generosity, I got to see places I probably never would have reached on my own: beautiful temples, mountain roads, waterfalls, small towns, and hidden corners outside the usual tourist paths.

Not every encounter was great, and a few matched the negative stereotype, but those were rare among the ones I actually met up with and I quickly moved on. In the end, most of the women I met were just normal, kind people looking for genuine relationships, not the stereotype that so many talk about.

So I just wanted to ask a few simple questions on what is the best way to get to date thai girls.

I am not really into picking up girls at bars or clubs but in Thailand there seems to be even more negatives to that approach(gold diggers/ basically prostitutes).

Talking to other foreigners is really easy girl or male since they most often speak decent enough English but I am more interested in dating a thai girl or asian girls because the city I am come from has very FEW asians girls(Ottawa/Canada).

I have approached probably 10 girls so far. Also I didn't approach any "sexy" girls, you all know what I mean. There is two type of Thai girls, the more traditional girly ones and the ones who wear a shit ton of makeup or very ultra revealing clothes.

Back in Canada I seem to do alright. I can get matched in tinder, go on dates etc. But out of the 10 girls I approached only 1 gave me her number. Others the conversation disintegrate either because of language or other circumstances. The one who did give me her number also seemed to be really happy when I approached her. We had a good long convo 5 mins or so. I got her number which I checked right away and it was indeed her. She also liked the idea I suggested of hanging out later.

I txted her twice and never got anything back.

Ok so someone with more experience in dating thai girls might enlighten. Also the thai girls I approached were pretty for thai standards, you know Thai's put girls with pale complexion on a pedestal. So maybe their standards are really high or something?

I see lots of Thai girls with foreign guys but very few of them seem to be the type of the girls I like. Even the young guys I see are often with thai girls that look they hang out all day at the bar. And for the older guys you know what kind of girls they hang out with.

Maybe approaching them in public is bad? I don't know if they think foreigners want to have ONS or be FWB.

It makes no sense because those "cute" type of girls I approached I have seen countless of them with really ugly guys. And I love Asians but most of the thai people are on the below average side for looks even though they have good personalities.

Hey, all I’m I’m here in Thailand for the last couple of weeks. I’ve been to Bangkok Chang mai, samui And I really struggle to find somebody I like , Tinder conversation not going nowhere , I even trying to approach some girls on the mall but it seemed they weren’t interested. My last trip was 10 years ago and I had incredible success with the girls I met on the street all time massage of course I’m talking about non-freelancer . I’m 45 , but look really young to my for my age, even girls I meet in my hotel or girl in random bars. Tell me I’m very good looking and how come I don’t have a girl, and this really bums me out. Possible that I’m doing something not right and maybe force myself to find someone and I end up not finding anyone. The girls that did approach me I found attractive, and yet I see guys in my age dating, beautiful young ladies . Please don’t judge, me I’m not a sexpat and genuinely looking for some good girl and want to have decent attraction with her.