Definition of "To assert one's dominance" @Peppeper Showing one’s dominance is like they are inherently dominant and it is being shown through their actions. Asserting one’s dominance is like you have something to prove or like they must earn the number one spot.|To show that you’re the ... More on hinative.com

I'd slap that hand like giving five, then raise my hand like I was waiting for the return response of the high five. Lol. Maybe say "Hey!" real loud when slapping like you're having fun. If he leaves me hanging then he's definitely no fun. And you are right, this is an immediate sign you're dealing with an insecure person who has to feel like they are in charge or control. Classic inferiority complex. And there's some weirdos who play these games just for fun and could try to become a competitive friend if you slap that hand, kinda looking at you like a new playmate. Strong willed people don't always want betas, they want to hang with other 'alphas' as way of seeking self-validation. This kind may be classic narcissist. FTFY: it shows how THEY WANT TO view themselves in relation to you. This information is useful. Especially if they are someone you need to get things from. Make them feel important and in control and they'll like you and cooperate. Especially if it's just a short time encounter. Like a salesman, I'd definitely conceed immediately now understanding his tell. Same at a dinner party or short term social gathering. It's an insignificant meeting, and I don't have to be in charge so ok, play along but keep your distance. I don't want to be super memorable or the center of attention at every event. That's exhausting to me. If it's people I care about and this person is an outsider I'd call it out in a way that will make him dislike me and embarrass him. "That's weird! What are so doing with you hand?!" Loudly. That will be pressing his obvious inferiority button pretty hard. If it's someone that's around every day, a peer, I feel you must passively aggressive block them at least. Or perhaps a simple one on one discussion about how no one has to be "in charge" to achieve goals. Just letting them know you see the power play is often enough to disarm them "Look at you with your hand face down! That's a weird way to hand shake." Then extend yours normal and wait for him to correct. That's a pretty clear message that I must be met on equal footing. With the walking "Slow down turbo! Where we are going isn't going anywhere." If it's a superior like a boss, good luck. Play along when he's around and laugh at it when he's not. My boss of the last 10 years is a bi-polar narcissistic control freak. But I only have to listen to him in a 10 minute phone call once a day. So it's manageable. More on reddit.com

I apologize if this is a duplicate. On Facebook, a friend posted this up: What's a word or phrase used to denote a person who says what's convenient when it's convenient, regardless of truthfu... More on english.stackexchange.com

I know what you’re referring to - I’m ESTP so I can’t answer in the way an actual ENTJ can, but I do have some insight as my partner is a textbook definition of one. The aura you speak of is mostly confidence and self-assuredness, ENTJs are particularly good at grabbing a room because they do it without hesitation. They may say something stupid or stutter during their piece, but the fact they grabbed said attention and maneuver themselves into a conversation or space without feeling the need to get prior approval is what makes them inherently sort of listened to. It’s all about that approach of grabbing something by the balls - and they are good at speaking even if nobody asked for their input, they are good at staying even if no one invited them, and they are good at influencing and captivating people because they aren’t afraid to exist where they are and say what they intend to. I notice personally that my INTP friends have issues with asserting themselves at times, because they care particularly more about being right or truthful than an ENTJ, who simply wants to be heard and ‘win’ at what they are doing. I think you should find ways to assert yourself by looking for more opportune moments to. Balance that integrity with some moral compromise enough to interject yourself into a conversation here and there, you don’t have to get up in anyone’s face but do say what you mean and don’t be afraid of speaking up or hesitating. Again, self-assuredness goes miles, so at some point you have to be ‘as ready as you’ll ever be’ to present your point/say something, and own it while doing so. No overthinking conversation points and letting that make you hesitate, say what you were going to and if it’s a bad take, welp you move on and try something else rather than letting that silence you. I notice the hard part as someone who is more P than J is that I don’t have a long term game plan for shit. When I grab people’s attention it is for something spur of the moment, not something to benefit us 5 steps ahead of now. Part of getting people to listen to you is knowing what you are going to say; and as a P, something to say may be said by matter of factly stating shit and then asking questions that stimulate conversation if your initial piece doesn’t land right - get conversations flowing My ENTJ loved How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie, it’s a great read for any personality type. I highly recommend it. Best of luck my friend! I hope you get some substantial ENTJ answers here beyond my sweaty ESTP s*nsor takes!!!! More on reddit.com