I feel this on such a deep level, I wish I had good advice for you but all I can say is you’re not alone. Most of the attention I’ve ever received is because of how I look, and honestly that makes me struggle with self esteem even more now that I’m getting older because I feel like it’s the only thing that ever made people want to talk to me. I’m lucky in that I’m married and my husband keeps me company but I just can’t seem to bond or make connections with other humans ever. Things are even awkward with my own parents and I wish I knew why. It’s a lonely place to be sometimes. If you ever need to talk or need a friend feel free to message me Answer from GoblinQueen765 on reddit.com
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r/socialskills on Reddit: Does anyone else just feel worthless?
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At this point, it’s not my lack of social skills hindering me; it’s my lack of worth. In fact, if I was worth anything, I’d have social skills. Human beings are innately social and making connections with others should come as naturally as breathing. As I look around me and see others making lifelong friends with strangers, effortlessly falling in love, laughing and joking etc it’s confirmed for me. I can’t even call myself human. How could I when I’m missing such a vital part of it?
I’ve been an outcast all of my life. I remember being in pre-k and feeling like I couldn’t connect with any of the kids. At worst I was bullied, at best I was used as an easy backup plan. Every time I thought I’d finally made a friend, they would inevitably show me that I didn’t mean much to them. I was 100% the kid/teen who ate lunch in the library (sometimes in the dirty bathroom stall).
One thing that I am lucky in is the fact that I’m female and not unattractive so I’ve always gotten male attention. I say I’m “lucky” for this because I’m aware that some other social outcasts (mainly men) go through life without even this. It’s always been obvious that 90% of these guys only saw me as an easy target but I at least coped with knowing that they wanted to talk to me.
This will sound melodramatic but I really feel as though some people just aren’t meant to be in this world (or maybe just there for others to abuse) and I’m one of them.
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I feel this on such a deep level, I wish I had good advice for you but all I can say is you’re not alone. Most of the attention I’ve ever received is because of how I look, and honestly that makes me struggle with self esteem even more now that I’m getting older because I feel like it’s the only thing that ever made people want to talk to me. I’m lucky in that I’m married and my husband keeps me company but I just can’t seem to bond or make connections with other humans ever. Things are even awkward with my own parents and I wish I knew why. It’s a lonely place to be sometimes. If you ever need to talk or need a friend feel free to message me
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Regarding being human, being human has never been a what, but a who. As long as you care for others, you are definitely human in my books As for feeling worthless, social skills should never define you. No matter who you are, you are worth something. Social skills does not define worth and it shouldn’t for you. You definitely belong in this world, I believe everyone does. So keep your head up, life is what you make of it, so stay positive and I’m sure you’ll find your way. 😄 Hope this helped
Verywell Mind
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5 Things to Do If You are Feeling Worthless
October 29, 2025 - Feelings of worthlessness often involve a sense of insignificance in oneself and are strongly linked to hopelessness and self-blame. Such feelings are often a common symptom of depression, but can also arise due to things such as low self-esteem, ...
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Starmeadowcounseling
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Why I Think “Worthless” Isn’t a Feeling AND Why that Matters - Star Meadow Counseling
March 24, 2024 - Have you ever been so dejected or depressed that you began to question your worth as a person? What triggered that moment for you? Was it: ... As counselors, we often hear clients describe their feeling during these moments as “worthless.” It’s as if some lack of performing, achieving, belonging, or approval could strip away a person’s value as a human, leaving them with a sense of emptiness.
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r/CPTSD on Reddit: What to do if I am worthless?
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As I see it, all the techniques I have learned or read are based on the assumption that I am not worthless. But what if I am then?
I can’t stop having the sensation that nobody has ever liked me or loved me, and the only reason is that I have no value for no one. Then… the only answer: self-love. But I can’t. Knowing that I am really all alone just makes me hate myself. And I know and tried everything.
Exercise: “do a list of 10 things you like about yourself”. Here it is again, the hidden assumption that I have those 10 things. I don’t. And yeah, it only makes me be more and more sure that I am worthless and wanting to disappear.
I need to know, what to do if I want to disappear because my life has no value?
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Weirdly: for me it was backwards from what most people think. Most people in north america seem to think you need self love and self respect before you can make real connections, but for me, I had to make real connections with others before I could not absolutely hate myself. I am working on getting to a point where I love myself still, but most days I have the ability to honestly say I'm not worthless. I made friends who cared for me as more than what I did for them (a lot of luck was involved, fell in with a group of people who were all good people in university), and they challenged my self-loathing, which opened me up to thinking maybe I'm not a burden or a waste of space, which in turn let me start to heal. So if you can't see worth in yourself but you have some friends or even friendly coworkers, try seeing what they see in you. And if you don't have friends or friendly coworkers (I didn't for a long time), maybe start by developing a social hobby that's generally pretty accepting of awkward types like D&D or martial arts (I did both). If nothing else, finding something you can have fun with will give you something to look forward to in your week, which for me was also really important in staying alive long enough to get to a point where I could start to heal.
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Something that helps me when I’m struggling with self-worth is to remind myself of the people in my life that I deem “worthy” of my care and admiration, like a friend. I think about whether or not their worth is based on my personal feelings about them, then I get the ick for determining their worth like that, and it helps remind me that self-worth has nothing to do with other people’s ability to care about you. My little sister just passed away three weeks ago. She loved me more than anyone and was the single functioning relationship I had in my life. We’re on a CPTSD sub so I don’t mind revealing that it’s also the ten year anniversary of being strangled by an ex. Is my life worthless now? Would you feel comfortable telling a stranger that they have no worth because my life has more physical people in it who have abused me than who loved me dearly? Probably not. And I know showing yourself the kindness you’d show a stranger is easier said than done, but it’s just an exercise to remind you that you ARE capable of kindness, and withholding it from ourselves is just something our mental illnesses do to sabotage our healing and growth. Remember that depression is parasitic, it feeds on your energy and tries it’s damndest to stay at the forefront of your mind. This is all to say that the concept of “self-worth” is just that; a concept. There isn’t an ultimate judge outside of your own brain that determines your worth, just as you don’t determine anyone else’s. You don’t need a life full of loved ones to decide you’re worthy of loving yourself, even though that seems like it would be the solution right now. In all honesty, it sounds like your depression and CPTSD are whispering “impossibles” in to your ear. “If only I had X, I’d feel better.” Don’t fall for it. People make the hard decision to prioritize themselves every single day in the loneliest shadows of their life. You can do this 🧡
Quora
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Feeling worthless, and lost all hope. What can I do? - Quora
Answer (1 of 163): You have a chance… yeah, probably feeling worthless is a unique thing which makes you know many untitled psychologies and it is then when you actually realise your worth and what you can do. In other terms, you approach the probabilities of so many undiscovered potential ...
Psychology Today
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“I’m Worthless”: The Thought That Nearly Killed Her | Psychology Today
July 28, 2025 - That sounded intriguing and sensible. At the next session, Miriam told me that at the moment she decided to commit suicide, she was telling herself that she was a worthless human being because she’d never accomplished anything meaningful or worthwhile in her life.
Beyond Blue
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May 20, 2021 - I hate that ugly person looking back at me. I hate everything about my appearance and who I am. The only time I feel okay is when I'm living vicariously through others. I socialise to distract myself. The second I'm alone it all comes back. I wonder why people even put up with me. Is it out of pity? Is it because they don't know any better? Half the time I'm counting down how soon it'll be before they finally realise how worthless ...
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November 7, 2021 - I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns. ... Try looking into philosophy, try Thic Naht Han, You are here. Vitality energy spirit is also a phenomenal resource ... Have you ever helped anyone do anything? Even just made a cashier smile? By definition, you're not worthless.
Psych Central
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4 Ways to Stop Feeling Worthless I Psych Central
May 2, 2022 - Guilt surrounding productivity ... sense of worthlessness. This was especially true during the start of the COVID-19 pandemic when rates of isolation and loneliness were high, according to ... But remember, what counts as productive is subjective. Everyone has different abilities. Personal and environmental ...
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Feeling Worthless? Learn How To Improve Your Self-Esteem and Feel More Confident | BetterHelp offers online therapy services to improve mental health
September 30, 2022 - Feeling worthless is one of the strongest issues that pushes a person to feel depressed. Learn how you can overcome feelings of worthlessness, feel better, and improve your self esteem.
Thought Catalog
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Inside The Mind Of A Worthless Person | Thought Catalog
March 18, 2016 - Slowly, it creeps in closer until ... yourself and life. On the outside you’re smiling, but on the inside that smile hides what you really feel. Worthless. I’m being completely honest when I say that I’ve struggled with feeling worth something for quite some time. While growing up I wasn’t the coolest or most sociable person to be around, ...
Choosing Therapy
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12 Things to Do If You’re Feeling Worthless
June 20, 2025 - You can easily get stuck in a loop of feeling worthless and your negative self-talk perpetuating these beliefs. By challenging negative self-talk, you can start to take some internal control of your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. Start by developing awareness of when and how this self-talk is triggered and notice any patterns that are present. Challenging these thoughts can be as simple as saying the opposite to yourself in your mind or out loud, like “I am worthy of …” whatever you may be struggling with at the time.
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Feeling Worthless: Understand and Overcome Negative Thoughts - Breeze Blog
May 7, 2025 - Typically, feeling of worthlessness ... strategies that may help: Identify and question negative thoughts like “I am worthless” to reshape your mindset and build a healthier self-perception....
HealthDirect
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Our core beliefs drive our automatic thoughts. For example, if you were constantly criticised when you were young, you may form the negative core belief that you are worthless. This can cause you to only believe things that support this negative belief.
Grace Health Clinic
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What to Do When You Feel Worthless: A Guide - Grace Health Clinic
May 19, 2025 - Having major depressive disorder may cause people to feel worthless about themselves. However, the causes can also include: ... No one should dismiss feeling unwanted or meaningless as something fleeting – it happens and can affect anyone, even if life seems perfect on the outside. The person with a perfect start to their day and perfectly glowing skin still has low moments now and then.
Dumb Little Man
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I Am Worthless: 13 Reasons Why and How To Deal With It - Dumb Little Man
November 14, 2025 - These people didn't let society define them as “worthless” because of where they were financial. Instead, they took control of their lives and made changes until everything was perfect. Become one of those people. The only person capable of changing your life is you.
Quora
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Why do I feel worthless most of the time? - Quora
Answer (1 of 454): Why care about what everyone thinks of your worth? What people think is not always true. You determine your own worth. I call this your individual merit. Nobody else can determine your individual merit except you. A lot of people think I’m worthless too, or at least, worth ...
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Stop measuring your value on someone else's inability to see it. Why be someone else when you can be you? You're one of a kind, irreplaceable, and impossible to replicate. Do you know what that means? You're priceless. No amount of gold or money can ever match you, because no one on the planet's history or future will be just like you. So stop hating your beautiful amazing perfections and imperfections because without those quirks you wouldn't be you. Be confident and love who you are. Smile. It will draw people in.
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You may feel this way because of the way you have been treated in the past. A pattern has been set in your mind and you have to break it. Do things to help yourself. Acknowledge your accomplishments, Practice talking positively about yourself - out loud, give back to your community or friends and family by doing things for others - you'll feel good about it, write down things your grateful for - try to do that every day to remind you of the positive parts in your life. You can recondition yourself. You can break this cycle.
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Worthless and Kind: Self-evaluation in adolescent depression
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How to Stop Feeling Useless (with Pictures) - wikiHow
April 22, 2025 - To stop feeling useless, one of the first things you need to do is figure out where that feeling is coming from. Once you've done that, you can take steps to improve your life, whether your feelings of uselessness stem from your...