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Seeing all these posts asking about when to tell a new partner had me wondering about what everyone here thinks they mean.
I feel like if we all have different opinions on WHEN to tell the partner, we might also MEAN something very different by it. (But then I guess the question is, does it really make sense to say "I love you" ? Ooof...)
Do you have really strong feelings for that person and "love" seems to describe it best? Do you use "I love you" as code for something else? Like "You're the person I think of the most" or "You're the person I wanna get old and wrinkly with" etc.? Do you talk to your partner about how you both define love so you're on the same page?
Those are just examples that I could think of; in my last two relationships I (32f) I said those words and seeing the responses, I feel like my declaration was received very differently from what I intended. ("Finally!" and "Noo, I wanted to say it first!") To my new partner (30m) I say things like "You're my favorite person" and "I think about our future together" so he knows he means a lot to me.
I'm not looking for answers to only the example questions above, I would really love to see what other possibilities there are 🙃
I, I just love you
Don't know why I just do
When are you coming home?
Babe I'm coming home soon
And I just love you too
I just love you in this context means that the speaker loves without any motive, reason or cause.
Like if we say something just disappeared, then it disappeared without apparent cause. It disappeared - and that is all.
I think that "I just love you" implies nothing else matters or could get in the way, in terms of this love. Maybe a sense that everything else is irrelevant.
I think back to all of the people that I dated. All of the people that told me they loved me and I said the same to them. I no longer talk to any of these people. And they no longer talk to me. Our relationship ended for whatever reason and we moved on with our lives.
"I love you" may have even be accompanied by things like "I'll never leave you" "Let's get married" "We'll be together forever" - none of which came to fruition.
There's a pretty bitter over tone to what I'm saying perhaps lol. Especially the additional saying that I added. But just in general I'm thinking like what does I love you even mean.
We say it and then we break up. Either it's all just words and doesn't really mean anything. Or it means a lot but we say it too soon, too often, and too frivolously and take away from it's power and weight.
What does “I love you” mean to you?just curious as to me it’s very important snd a special thing. Just wondering how men think about these words and what they mean when they are said.