The problem with your code is that each call of faker.name().fullName() will generate a new name. (Also faker.name().username() has no relation to any previously generated full name.)

You could change your code to this:
(Assuming that each fullName consist of at least two parts, seperated by a space)

String fullName = faker.name().fullName();
String firstName = fullName.substring(fullName.indexOf(' '));

p.setEmail(firstName + "@lucatinder.org");
p.setAge(faker.number().numberBetween(18, 90));
p.setGender(sex);
p.setName(fullName);
p.setPassword(faker.lorem().characters(8, 16));

However that won't solve your gender issue, as that does not seem to be a supported feature.
Check this related issue on the github project.

For whatever you're trying to do with that generated data, there (normally) shouldn't be an issue if the sex does not match to the name.