I read here that's it between a relationship. If someone wants sex once a month and someone wants sex 3 times, the 3 times a month is technically the HL partner, even at 3 times a month.

Do you need to simply want sex more than your partner to be High Libido? Or do you need to have a lot of sex to be High Libido? I'm not talking about sex with your current partner. Just sex.

To be high libido do you just want sex more than your partner, or do you need sex at a certain frequency to function, like three times a day, once a day, once a week?

I find this confusing.

Reactions to my post yesterday got me intrigued as to what everyone is using as metrics in here. I know the official definition for the sub is HL just means higher. That would imply there could be people in here who want it 4 times a week while their LL wants it 2 times a week. That doesn't seem to be the case with the majority of people though. Perhaps it would take a larger discrepancy than that before someone would bother going on Reddit to find help in the first place. That would be an interesting topic as well as far as how large the compromise gap has to become before frustration starts setting in.

So before coming here, my definitions of these would have been:

HL - someone who considers once a day to be a compromise

LL - someone who wants it less than three times a week

DB - having sex less than weekly

I'm beginning to think these definitions are substantially different than most people's on here. It's seems for many LL is closer to no-L. So then are there HL in here who only want it once or twice a week but consider themselves HL because they are with a no-L. I'd love to hear from people who have been in relationships where there position changed, so they thought they were HL until they met their match, and how did that feel going from being the pursuer to the pursued. Did it help having a more empathetic understanding of what your HL was going through?