Lodash version 3.10.1

Methods compared

• _.merge(object, [sources], [customizer], [thisArg])
• _.assign(object, [sources], [customizer], [thisArg])
• _.extend(object, [sources], [customizer], [thisArg])
• _.defaults(object, [sources])
• _.defaultsDeep(object, [sources])

Similarities

• None of them work on arrays as you might expect
• _.extend is an alias for _.assign, so they are identical
• All of them seem to modify the target object (first argument)
• All of them handle null the same

Differences

• _.defaults and _.defaultsDeep processes the arguments in reverse order compared to the others (though the first argument is still the target object)
• _.merge and _.defaultsDeep will merge child objects and the others will overwrite at the root level
• Only _.assign and _.extend will overwrite a value with undefined

Tests

They all handle members at the root in similar ways.

_.assign      ({}, { a: 'a' }, { a: 'bb' }) // => { a: "bb" }
_.merge       ({}, { a: 'a' }, { a: 'bb' }) // => { a: "bb" }
_.defaults    ({}, { a: 'a' }, { a: 'bb' }) // => { a: "a"  }
_.defaultsDeep({}, { a: 'a' }, { a: 'bb' }) // => { a: "a"  }

_.assign handles undefined but the others will skip it

_.assign      ({}, { a: 'a'  }, { a: undefined }) // => { a: undefined }
_.merge       ({}, { a: 'a'  }, { a: undefined }) // => { a: "a" }
_.defaults    ({}, { a: undefined }, { a: 'bb' }) // => { a: "bb" }
_.defaultsDeep({}, { a: undefined }, { a: 'bb' }) // => { a: "bb" }

They all handle null the same

_.assign      ({}, { a: 'a'  }, { a: null }) // => { a: null }
_.merge       ({}, { a: 'a'  }, { a: null }) // => { a: null }
_.defaults    ({}, { a: null }, { a: 'bb' }) // => { a: null }
_.defaultsDeep({}, { a: null }, { a: 'bb' }) // => { a: null }

But only _.merge and _.defaultsDeep will merge child objects

_.assign      ({}, {a:{a:'a'}}, {a:{b:'bb'}}) // => { "a": { "b": "bb" }}
_.merge       ({}, {a:{a:'a'}}, {a:{b:'bb'}}) // => { "a": { "a": "a", "b": "bb" }}
_.defaults    ({}, {a:{a:'a'}}, {a:{b:'bb'}}) // => { "a": { "a": "a" }}
_.defaultsDeep({}, {a:{a:'a'}}, {a:{b:'bb'}}) // => { "a": { "a": "a", "b": "bb" }}

And none of them will merge arrays it seems

_.assign      ({}, {a:['a']}, {a:['bb']}) // => { "a": [ "bb" ] }
_.merge       ({}, {a:['a']}, {a:['bb']}) // => { "a": [ "bb" ] }
_.defaults    ({}, {a:['a']}, {a:['bb']}) // => { "a": [ "a"  ] }
_.defaultsDeep({}, {a:['a']}, {a:['bb']}) // => { "a": [ "a"  ] }

All modify the target object

a={a:'a'}; _.assign      (a, {b:'bb'}); // a => { a: "a", b: "bb" }
a={a:'a'}; _.merge       (a, {b:'bb'}); // a => { a: "a", b: "bb" }
a={a:'a'}; _.defaults    (a, {b:'bb'}); // a => { a: "a", b: "bb" }
a={a:'a'}; _.defaultsDeep(a, {b:'bb'}); // a => { a: "a", b: "bb" }

None really work as expected on arrays

Note: As @Mistic pointed out, Lodash treats arrays as objects where the keys are the index into the array.

_.assign      ([], ['a'], ['bb']) // => [ "bb" ]
_.merge       ([], ['a'], ['bb']) // => [ "bb" ]
_.defaults    ([], ['a'], ['bb']) // => [ "a"  ]
_.defaultsDeep([], ['a'], ['bb']) // => [ "a"  ]

_.assign      ([], ['a','b'], ['bb']) // => [ "bb", "b" ]
_.merge       ([], ['a','b'], ['bb']) // => [ "bb", "b" ]
_.defaults    ([], ['a','b'], ['bb']) // => [ "a", "b"  ]
_.defaultsDeep([], ['a','b'], ['bb']) // => [ "a", "b"  ]

Create dictionaries for both arrays using _.keyBy(), merge the dictionaries, and convert the result to an array with _.values(). In this way, the order of the arrays doesn't matter. In addition, it can also handle arrays of different length.

const ObjectId = (id) => id; // mock of ObjectId
const arr1 = [{"member" : ObjectId("57989cbe54cf5d2ce83ff9d8"),"bank" : ObjectId("575b052ca6f66a5732749ecc"),"country" : ObjectId("575b0523a6f66a5732749ecb")},{"member" : ObjectId("57989cbe54cf5d2ce83ff9d6"),"bank" : ObjectId("575b052ca6f66a5732749ecc"),"country" : ObjectId("575b0523a6f66a5732749ecb")}];
const arr2 = [{"member" : ObjectId("57989cbe54cf5d2ce83ff9d6"),"name" : 'xxxxxx',"age" : 25},{"member" : ObjectId("57989cbe54cf5d2ce83ff9d8"),"name" : 'yyyyyyyyyy',"age" : 26}];

const merged = _(arr1) // start sequence
  .keyBy('member') // create a dictionary of the 1st array
  .merge(_.keyBy(arr2, 'member')) // create a dictionary of the 2nd array, and merge it to the 1st
  .values() // turn the combined dictionary to array
  .value(); // get the value (array) out of the sequence

console.log(merged);

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Using ES6 Map

Concat the arrays, and reduce the combined array to a Map. Use Object#assign to combine objects with the same member to a new object, and store in map. Convert the map to an array with Map#values and spread:

const ObjectId = (id) => id; // mock of ObjectId
const arr1 = [{"member" : ObjectId("57989cbe54cf5d2ce83ff9d8"),"bank" : ObjectId("575b052ca6f66a5732749ecc"),"country" : ObjectId("575b0523a6f66a5732749ecb")},{"member" : ObjectId("57989cbe54cf5d2ce83ff9d6"),"bank" : ObjectId("575b052ca6f66a5732749ecc"),"country" : ObjectId("575b0523a6f66a5732749ecb")}];
const arr2 = [{"member" : ObjectId("57989cbe54cf5d2ce83ff9d6"),"name" : 'xxxxxx',"age" : 25},{"member" : ObjectId("57989cbe54cf5d2ce83ff9d8"),"name" : 'yyyyyyyyyy',"age" : 26}];

const merged = [...arr1.concat(arr2).reduce((m, o) => 
  m.set(o.member, Object.assign(m.get(o.member) || {}, o))
, new Map()).values()];

console.log(merged);

Use _.unionBy() to combine two arrays, and remove duplicates that have the same unique field (id in this case). The lodash's union methods create an array of unique values. The _.unionBy() method accepts an iteratee which is invoked for each element of each array to generate the criterion by which uniqueness is computed.

const array1 = [{id:1, name:'doc1'}, {id:2, name:'doc2'}];
const array2 = [{id:1, name:'doc1'}, {id:3, name:'doc3'}, {id:4, name:'doc4'}];

const result = _.unionBy(array1, array2, 'id');
console.log(result);

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