Budget? Not sure what level of formality either but here is a nicely priced, long sleeve sage green dress with a variety of sizes: https://ivycityco.com/products/andie-dress-in-sage A lot of options for that color with different types of sleeve: https://www.ever-pretty.com/collections/sage-green-formal-dress Amazon: https://a.co/d/7rCsRcp More on reddit.com

Dia & Co has some lovely options, largely by Kiyonna. Lace Dress - This would be pretty in sapphire, pinot noir, or, if you want to go with a summery color, coral. (I feel like September is a month where you can go summer or fall, depending on when during the month the event happens.) Second Lace Option - In addition to the shades you're trying to avoid (black and navy), this one comes in a lighter blue and the same coral as the first one. Third Lace Option - These lace dresses are all similar, but with different necklines and details. This one is really pretty, too, and comes in coral, indigo blue, plum wine, and ruby. I think the plum wine is such a pretty color if you're looking to go with a fall color. Fourth Lace Option - I'm not sure if this waist is too high for you, but I think the berry bliss color is so pretty for fall! Lace and Satin Dress - This dress in burgundy is definitely appropriate for a cocktail wedding! Embroidered Floral - In my experience, dresses similar to this one have become very popular for wedding guests. If you're willing to do black with a print/embroidery, I think this one is really pretty! Portrait Neckline - If you're comfortable wearing a strapless bra, I love this dress with a portrait neckline. Ruched Dress - I have this in black and I love the fit! I know you're not looking to wear black, but it also comes in a lovely pink. City Chic also has some great options! Strapless Ruffle - The available sizes are limited, but, if you're willing to go strapless, I think this is so pretty in garnet. Floral Print - This is the same dress as above, but in floral. It does have a black base, but the print is a large bold floral, so, if the bridesmaid dresses are solid black, it would look nothing like the bridesmaid dresses. Another Floral Option - This looks very similar to the above dresses, but I think the material is slightly different. The print is lovely! Tie Dress - This is lovely in the lighter blue! It's kind of close to navy, but, since your sister has expressed that she doesn't mind you wearing navy, I don't think it's a big deal if you wear a color that's navy-adjacent. Jumpsuit - If you want to be bold, a jumpsuit could be fun, and, as long as it's the appropriate level of formality, is appropriate for a cocktail dress code. I know jumpsuits may be different for someone your height, though. Chain Belt - It's possible I'm too into purple, but I really love the color of this one, and I think the included belt is fun, too! Reformation and BooHoo also have some lovely plus size options, though, admittedly, Reformation's sizes are more limited - up to a 3X, but I have found that their pieces run small, especially if you have a larger chest, so their 3X likely fits like a 2X in some other brands. More on reddit.com