I am starting to look into what to wear for my wedding, and am struggling to even know where to start—especially because I'm a fat person currently experimenting with my gender expression/identity. I *might* end up wanting to wear a dress, but it's feeling less and less likely as time goes on. At the moment, I'd say that my style is best described as chapstick lesbian—I like a more androgynous/slightly masc leaning look with a few more femme elements sprinkled in here and there.

I know that the obvious answers are a suit/tux or jumpsuit, but I'm having a hard time finding bodies that are representative of mine modeling them, and frankly, a million images of ultra-thin people in suits does nothing to help me picture what options might work for me.

I am fat and very busty*, and the suits that look ultra chic on thinner people tend to make me look like a frumpy middle manager from Duluth (no offense meant to middle managers or folks from Duluth—it's just not the vibe I want). Maybe I need to try different suits, which I'm open to, but cautiously, as it's been a less-than-pleasant experience in the past (see note below).

I think what I need in order to really get started are inspiration photos from non-straight sized queer folks to even see what my options are outside of the standard suits, jumpsuits, or dresses. I've been looking for such inspo, but have been coming up short. This roundup has been the closest to being helpful, but again—mostly thin folks. I like the idea of some kind of separate—maybe a nice trouser with a slightly more femme leaning top of some sort? But I'm not fashion-forward enough to really put together potential outfits without reference material.

Apologies for the long, rambling post, but I'm trying to get as much relevant information as possible. Any and all suggestions are very welcome and greatly appreciated.

*Binders make next to no difference for me, and my bust is a huge source of insecurity/body dysmorphia/gender dysphoria for me, so I kindly request you to just trust me when I say that my bust causes issues and makes clothing not look as *gendery* on me as I want it to.

Anyone have recs for suits for us bigger gals? Preferably somewhere I can shop in person in nyc but online works too. I feel like bigger sizes just make suits look boxy and I want to look professional but cute!!