Does anyone actually genuinely enjoy spending time with their family?
What is a normal amount of time to spend with family per week?
"Do you spend time with your family? Good. Because a man that doesn't spend time with his family, can never be a real man." - Don Vito Corleone
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I find having to get together with grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, etc. to be a chore. I am just not interested in them and don’t really want to tell them about my life. So meeting them feels like having to pretend and tell a polished and superficial version of my life for hours….which is just exhausting.
I'm trying to set boundaries with my nuclear family.
I'm 25F and live on my own. We were a pretty enmeshed family growing up, religious homeschooled, biblical obedience, if you lived it you know the drill. Both of my parents are controlling, as you might guess, but to add to that my Mom's "love language" is TIME. So she has pretty much always required ridiculous amounts of "family time".
Only after growing up and moving out did I realize how much fear, guilt and obligation went into this mandatory family time, and how ridiculous it is for her to continue to insist on "mandatory attendance" for her adult children.
I've read a lot of books about boundaries and immature parents, and now I'm trying to figure out what a normal amount of time to spend with your family is.
Would a Maximum of 2 Family events a week be normal? (Family event defined as anything where either parent is present.) I would definitely be saying no a decent amount if I made that the limit.
And how many hours is a normal event? 3 hours? less? At this point I've started trying to say that I'm leaving at the 3 hour mark and sticking to it as best as I can. But both my parents and my siblings definitely have snide comments about me "leaving early".
Also do you travel with your family? How often? I've already turned down two "family trips" this calendar year.
How much time do you all spend with your family a week and do you feel like its a good amount of time? What do you feel is normal?