Is there a forum on here for meeting people on Reddit? There are so many people on here with such sad but similar stories that would just seem to be so perfect for each other. I think people who use Reddit tend to be fairly intelligent individuals relative to the people you find on online dating sites.

After having seen a lot of complaints about these apps from men, I thought I would add my own perspective as a woman to see if anyone can relate.

I am an average, normal looking woman in my 30s living in a mid sized town. So not big city, but also not rural/countryside. I have attractive photos (including more sexy/revealing as well as more conservative ones, it's a mix) and a thoughtful intro in which my personality comes through without containing any red flags, dealbreakers or very controversial opinions. Slightly flirty, but not mainly focused on sex.

I get several matches a week, depending on how much I'm using/swiping the app. A good ratio of the people I swipe 'yes' on like me back. When I first signed up, I used to get excited about these 'matches', but that wore off very quickly, as I observed the following.

While I get plenty of matches, the ratio of my matches who actually bother messaging me is something like 1 out of 100. On average, I only get a message once every couple of months. And some of those messages is a simple 'hi'.

My policy is that I don't message anyone first, but I always engage with whoever messages me. I have tried messaging men in the past, but it never turned out well - I always got lazy answers and the convo died off pretty quickly.

So like I said, I only get actually messaged by someone in about 1% of cases, or once every few months. But it gets worse. Of those, the amount of people we ended up fixing a date with and they actually turned up at the agreed place and time was about 3 or 4 people over the last 6 YEARS. (In the last few months alone, I had two cases where I had a date scheduled with someone which they cancelled last minute and they never rescheduled. It is so regular, I don't even bat an eyelid anymore.) And the amount of 2nd dates I have had is precisely 0. Some didn't continue because I wasn't interested; some didn't because they weren't. But they simply didn't.

I find that most of those very few people who do end up messaging me just want to chat, mostly about sex. But they cannot be bothered to shower and leave the house - even if IRL sex is on the table. Female friends much more attractive than me are complaining of basically the same thing.

Anyway, I just decided to share my perspective because I am a bit tired of hearing how 'women have it easier' on these apps...

When I began using the apps I thought I had a lot to offer but have had zero luck on the apps even in major cities. I'm curious what other people's experiences are and if a lot of people are meeting off Reddit? I also think the apps are extremely difficult for women over the age of 40 because men their own age want to date so much younger it seems.

Anyone tried the dating subreddits? Having literally completed Tinder, Bumble, Hinge in my local area no one's left to swipe! 😂

If tiktok is to be believed, a lot of men use this app for inappropriate content, to talk w models/ of girls, etc. Men of Reddit, does this have any truth to it?

My bf uses this app and I didn’t really think anything of it because I use too. This is a throwaway account, but I mainly use Reddit for aita, anti-work and job, city, travel related subreddits. So I assumed it was the same/ similar for him, but now I’m getting videos on my fyp suggesting this isn’t the case for a lot of men. Should I be concerned?

Where do you start?

I'm looking to meet someone but I'm just not lucky when it comes to r4r, any other active dating reddits that might be useful?

r/foreveralonedating is too slow. r/r4r is full of freaks (don't ask) and r/r4rAsian hardly has any Asians in the subreddit. Is there any good subreddit to find personal relationships and most importantly love.

I am 24F and I have little experience in dating. My dating history has been so awkward, as was struggling with shyness. Now that I'm way less shy, I would like to try dating again, but in a more mature and serious way.

My fear is that I know dating apps are used a lot for ONS and meaningless relationships. I'm very careful when it comes to sexuality because I'm totally inexperienced and I read so many stories that I'm scared of being manipulated or used. That's why I'd prefer not encounter men who are only looking for sex since I am seeking a serious and long term relationship and want to take things really slow (yes I believe that serious men on dating apps exits even if my friends keep telling me that I'll only waste my time).

I have several questions :

- How to approach men on a dating app? I'm a really bad texter and I have no "game" other than "Hi, what's up?".

- After how many weeks should we set up a date?

- What are some the redflags that I should be aware of regarding online dating?

- How do I make an appealing dating profile (bio, pictures)?

- Based on your personal experience/preference, what apps would you recommend? For now, I've heard a lot of good reviews about Hinge but I don't know what it worth.

Sorry if it's too many question but I'd love some advice before, so I won't be too lost. Thank you

Question: Have you checked if there's a dating subreddit for your city/area, and if so have you used it?

Reddit posts can work as the opposite of a dating app: Instead of swiping on a photo, a well written profile post full of interesting stuff that you do attracts attention. People contact you via the reddit chat, and after a few hours chatting and answering questions, then you offer to swap photos.

Might be a good option for those like me who don't photograph well

I've seen a few comments about people meeting someone on Reddit and have even received a few messages from people wanting to chat. Seems like an odd outlet for dating. Anybody ever had success. Just curious.

Give me the straight up tea about how to be attractive to men. No bs.

I go on YouTube and these videos are all kind of like “just be yourself!” Or “just wait and you’ll meet the right person at the right time!”

But then I watch men’s dating advice and it’s a full on analytical breakdown of how to appeal to women’s preferences.

Don’t get me wrong, there’s also some spicy dating advice for women but it’s basically “ignore men and focus on yourself girly ✨💅🏻then he’ll be chasing you!!”

But that shit doesn’t work.

So give me the no bullshit advice on how to be attractive to men. Do not hold back.